TARA PARKER-POPE, ‘How to Build Resilience in Midlife’, https://mobile.nytimes.com/2017/07/25/well/mind/how-to-boost-resilience-in-midlife.html, The New York Times (JULY 25, 2017)
Some of the ways you can build your resilience
While resilience is an essential skill for healthy childhood development, science shows that adults also can take steps to boost resilience in middle age, which is often the time we need it most. (…) Scientists who study stress and resilience say it’s important to think of resilience as an emotional muscle that can be strengthened at any time. While it’s useful to build up resilience before a big or small crisis hits, there still are active steps you can take during and after a crisis to speed your emotional recovery. (…) Here are some of the ways you can build your resilience in middle age. (…) Practice Optimism. (…) Hang out with optimistic people. (…) Rewrite Your Story. (…) Don’t Personalize It. (…) Remind yourself that even if you made a mistake, a number of factors most likely contributed to the problem and shift your focus to the next steps you should take. (…) Remember Your Comebacks. (…) Support Others. Resilience studies show that people are more resilient when they have strong support networks of friends and family to help them cope with a crisis. (…) Take Stress Breaks. Times of manageable stress present an opportunity to build your resilience. (…) You have to invite stress into your life. A human being needs stress; the body and the mind want stress. (…) Stress is the stimulus for growth, and recovery is when the growth occurs. (…) Go Out of Your Comfort Zone. Resilience doesn’t just come from negative experience. (…) Your stress hormone systems will become less responsive to stress so you can handle stress better.